The Right Approach To Adult Dating
Online dating can be a difficult thing to get right. You're trying to put enough of your personality into your profile without appearing too desperate or needy in order to get yourself that all important first date or meeting. Out in the real world, you may just get to talking to someone in a bar, pub or club and hit it off. However, the same approach doesn't always work online - especially in the world of casual/adult dating.
From years of experience in the dating and adult dating industry, we have some tips that may help you take the right approach, and your changes of getting a date!
At Casual Sex Now, we're all about getting you laid. So when creating your profile, you're trying to let potential partners in the area know that you're available and looking for free sex dating, without coming on too strong. Men on adult dating sites tend to be a lot less picky than women. Even when looking for casual sex, women will quite often want to find someone who isn't rude or sexist, and who they can have a nice time with - as well as lots of fun in the bedroom! That being said, most of the advice here is useful for both males and females who are looking for a partner!
Some suggestions to get you started are;
Have a thick skin - It's important that you are able to deal with rejection. The sad truth is, it will probably happen a lot. Males are more likely to have to face this than females on adult dating sites, but it does work both ways. Rejection may be simply through a non-response to a message, or it could be more blunt. Don't take it personally, accept it and move on!
Be positive - This goes hand in hand with the above tip, but it is important to not only stay positive when facing rejection, but to be positive about the experience from the start. Go in expecting that you will meet someone and don't be demoralised if this doesn't happen for you straight away. Enjoy the experience and have fun messaging and trying to meet people.
Send lots of messages - This one probably seems obvious, but many users don't follow this advice. Clearly your chances of getting a meeting will increase the more messages that you send. However, some users hold out for a response from their preferred matches rather than send lots of messages to members nearby. If you're looking for casual sex then get messaging anyone who takes your fancy!
Be honest - Be upfront about your likes and dislikes in the bedroom. Don't say you're into something just because a potential hookup is. It could lead to misunderstandings and problems if and when you get to the bedroom! Just because you find someone attractive doesn't mean you have to like all the same things. They may want to meet up even if you're not into a certain or specific kink.
Be open to new experiences - Taking the above point into account, there is nothing wrong with being a little flexible. Perhaps you're chatting with someone who is into something you've never tried or though much about. Tell them that, but perhaps be open to trying it out - they may show you something that will blow your mind!
Know limits & be safe - Casual dating should be fun for both (or all!) persons involved. It's important that you know each others likes/dislikes and limits before you start any kind of sexual relationship. Whether you have that conversation whilst chatting online, or when you first meet each other face to face, it is vital that you have it. Discuss what the limits are for both of you. Make sure that someone knows that you're meeting someone from online, and try to find out some details about your potential partner before meeting. We would also always suggest that you first meet in a public place before moving somewhere more private if things go well!
A lot of the advice here may seem obvious, but these points are drawn from common mistakes that people make in their approach to adult dating. Hopefully this helps you to avoid making the same mistakes!